In this episode of the Idea to Value Podcast, we speak with bestselling author Eric Barker. Eric runs one of the most popular newsletters on the web to use science and psychology to improve your life, and I have been a fan for years.
We speak about his new book Plays well with others: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Relationships Is (Mostly) Wrong, and the scientific insights we can all use to have stronger and healthier relationships.
Topics covered in this episode:
- 00:01:30 – Eric’s background interest in philosophy and social sciences leading him to develop his blog and newsletter
- 00:04:45 – His first book Barking up the wrong tree looking into the maxims in life about success are not always true
- 00:07:15 – His new book, and what we can learn about strengthening relationships. What is a myth, and what has some science behind it?
- 00:09:30 – How the pandemic has made people more aware of the dangers of isolation, and how before the 19th century, loneliness was not a major issue. Loneliness is a deeply personal perception
- 00:15:00 – The issue with social media and parasocial relationships
- 00:17:00 – Having an improved social life, especially groups who know one another, has the equivalent positive benefit as a salary raise of $150,000
- 00:19:30 – The best ways to build and deepen friendships, giving time and showing vulnerability
- 00:25:30 – How all of us are terrible at read what other people are thinking, and how to improve this
- 00:29:45 – How teams can build team dynamics for trust and increased creativity
- 00:33:00 – People who submit the best ideas are the ones who submit the most ideas
- 00:35:00 – The importance of doing exciting things with your partners. It is about quality of time together, not quantity of time together
Links mentioned in this episode:
- Pre-order the book to get 25% more content on “How to be your best self”: https://bakadesuyo.com/plays-well-with-others/
- Eric’s website and newsletter: https://bakadesuyo.com/
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